Why can't I enjoy my wins? The Next Hill Pattern
Do you finish a big project and immediately look for the next one? Learn why your brain skips the party and how to finally feel proud.
What is The Next Hill?
The Next Hill pattern comes from having parents who always asked 'What's next?' instead of saying 'Yay!' when you did something great. You learned that winning is just the start of a new, harder job. Now, as an adult, you feel like you are always climbing a mountain that never ends. You are tired because you never stop to look at the view and say, 'I did it!'
Common Signs & Symptoms
The 'What's Next?' Voice
Hearing a voice in your head that says 'Okay, that's done. Now do the next thing!' before you even take a breath.
Joyless Success
Winning a big prize but feeling nothing inside, or feeling like you have to work even harder now.
The Tired Climber
Feeling very exhausted because you feel like life is just one hill after another without any rest.
Common Triggers
The Finish Line
The moment you click 'Send' on a big project or finish a hard task.
The 'Good Job' Moment
When a boss or a friend tells you that you did a great job, and you immediately think of your mistakes.
Winning the Prize
Getting the promotion, the money, or the grade you wanted, but feeling like it's not enough.
How People Usually Respond
The Endless Sprint (Unhealthy)
Running to the next task immediately. This keeps you busy but makes your heart feel very tired and empty.
The Purposeful Party (Healthy)
Setting a timer to stop and celebrate. You look at what you did and tell yourself, 'I am proud of me.'
Self-Therapy Approach
How to Stop and Enjoy the View
1. The Mountain has a Top
When you were little, your parents kept moving the finish line. But in your real life today, the finish line is where you say it is. You are allowed to stop. You don't have to climb every second to be a good person.
2. The Celebration Rule
Try this: Every time you finish something, you must celebrate for at least 10 minutes. You can have a snack, dance to a song, or just sit and smile. Tell yourself out loud: 'I did a hard thing, and I am great.' This teaches your brain that winning feels good.
3. Look at Your 'Done' List
Usually, we only look at our 'To-Do' list. Start a 'Done' list! Write down 3 big things you have done in your life. Look at how much you have grown. You aren't at the bottom of the hill anymore; you are very high up!
4. You are the Leader of the Party
You don't need your parents or your boss to say 'Yay!' for you. You are the leader of your own life now. You can give yourself the hug or the 'Good job' that you didn't get when you were a kid.
5. Use the Mindeln App
Open Mindeln and use the 'Mirror Feature.' It helps you see how much you have done without the 'What's Next' voice getting in the way. By using logic, you can see that you are a winner right now. You don't have to wait for the next hill to be happy.
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When to Seek Professional Help
# When to Seek Help You should talk to a guide if: * You have reached all your goals but you feel very sad or 'dead' inside. * You feel like you can never stop working, even when you are sick or hurt. * You get angry at yourself whenever you aren't being 'productive.' * You feel like your life is a race you can never win. A guide can help you find joy in the present moment so you can enjoy the life you worked so hard to build.
Scientific Background
The Science of the Happy Hamster Wheel
The Hedonic Treadmill
In science, this is called the Hedonic Treadmill. It means that when you get something good, you quickly get used to it and want more. For people with the 'Next Hill' pattern, this wheel spins very fast.
The Logic of Achievement
At Mindeln, we use first principles to look at happiness. Your old brain used this broken math:
But the real logic for a peaceful life is:
If you always make your Expectation bigger (by looking at the next hill), your Happiness will always stay at zero. Logic shows you must lower your expectation of 'what's next' to enjoy 'what is.'
Dopamine Baseline
When you win, your brain gets a splash of dopamine. But if you immediately start a new task, you don't let your brain reset. This makes you feel 'burnt out' even when you are successful. Learning to rest helps your brain stay healthy and ready for the next real adventure.
The Mindeln Approach
How Mindeln Helps You Enjoy the View
At Mindeln, we believe that life is about the journey, not just the peak. We help you find the 'Next Hill' voice and turn the volume down. We give you 'Pride Missions' to help you practice being proud of yourself. Mindeln helps you build a life where you are the master of your wins. Ready to celebrate? Start your journey with Mindeln.
Common Questions
Q: Why do I feel empty after I finish a big goal?
A: Your brain is trained to look for the next 'danger' or task instead of feeling happy. You feel empty because you haven't given yourself permission to be full of joy.
Q: Is it lazy to stop and celebrate my success?
A: No! Celebrating is how you tell your brain that hard work is worth it. If you never celebrate, your brain will eventually stop wanting to work at all.
Q: How do I stop wanting more all the time?
A: By practicing 'Looking Back.' Instead of looking at the next hill, look at how far you have already climbed. You have done many hard things already!